Feminism, Liberal Thoughts, Women Empowerment – we are all well versed with these terms although only more than a few understand its true essence. Now as I start to write this post, I want to stress the fact that I believe in Feminism & Women Empowerment, but sometimes they do make things awkward.
Today I am going to RANT about ‘Liberity & Power of New Age Women: A Plightful Story’ (No its not a book silly, but the #storyofmylife)
So I have just dated once in my entire life and after that relationship only a morose person who loves misogyny would want to enter another relationship ever. However my post isn’t about this. It is about how after me feeling extremely unprepared (read: my happy place) I am being constantly told, asked, enquired and given looks when people ask me about my dating life and I say ‘Don’t have any!’
‘Why, but everyone dates?!’
‘Yeah!? Just I am in a happy place right now, feel it will be a drama’
And Lo! They start with their pity and judgemental looks while I just manage to crease up a smile with obvious thought in my head being : Oh, another donkey!
You see I am at an age where aunties who had their telescopes glued into my house are now sending proposals, family functions are awkward as you know that relatives teasing about ‘When are you getting married?’ isn’t mere teasing, going out with friends is weird as almost everyone is dating and they have their mushiness, you are at the invasion of your privacy, surrounded with and your family is the worst.
‘Everyone has a boyfriend, how come you cannot find one?
‘Either accept proposals we get you or find yourself one’
So dear readers, as you may understand now, I am in a plight. I am a new age independent woman who cannot find herself the right man and it is killing everyone around me, but me.
I often tell myself if I can’t find the right one, then obviously my parents would find me one. So I’d have the one. Now any relationship is a struggle, so I’d struggle with the one chosen by my parents and make it happy. I believe it. But apparently this ain’t the right belief.
I am a NEW AGE, INDEPEDENT, BEER DRINKING WOMAN, How can I go for something chosen by my parents? Who, by the way, are the reason why I grew up to be like this. So the logic is losing value because certain things aren’t deemed as ‘cool’ by the new age-ites around me and it translates to me not taking charge of my life.
So apparently me choosing the decision that I want my parents to find me my Mr. Him isn’t taking charge of my life. #IronicDiaries
Coming back to my parents. they’d often ask about what my ‘guy’ friends are doing these days, who is settled how well etc. Very subtle way of trying to find out who I should probably go for. Then they’d ask that how come you went to London and you did not find anybody. Who is to tell them the romantic horrors I experienced with the one and only relationship of my life. (HAHA)
So basically, a girl who is in a perfectly happy place enjoying her freedom and over binging sessions is now being told by the society as a whole to find a boyfriend, someone who I’d end up marrying.
Cut to the present: There is pressure, jokes and judgemental looks. Friends are wingwomans and wingmans. There are proposals from families, lot of them. There are dreams, hopes and a newly setup business to be taken care of. There is unpreparedness and disinterest towards relationships.
But who is to understand all of this, when my parents only are acting funnily because of me not finding a guy. And so are friends.
So readers, the plight of the new age women isn’t just that she doesn’t have a boyfriend, but also that whatever decisions she would take would never make everyone happy. Its not Love V/S Arranged marriage or Unpreparedness V/S Age but its You V/S Them.
Or maybe its not a war, but will somebody please tell them to shut up? Thenks.
-The Free Spirited Soul
(The New Age Woman)