Beautifully dressed up and the make-up just right, you look at your friend. No, you aren’t jealous instead happy & proud to be standing next to someone beautiful like them. And the little angel in your mind tells you : Go tell her that she looks beautiful.
Now before you tune into that angelic mode and distribute compliments – SHUT UP. The Free Spirited Soul has a practical advice for you – don’t compliment if you don’t want to hear how ugly, fat or over the top she looks.
You still aren’t sure if I am in my senses, right?
Well then, let me give you a glimpse into the scene – what will happen when you compliment her?
“Hey (female), you look very pretty today! very beautiful!”
“Is it? I think today I look slightly fat, you know the fit of the dress”
” ❗ Umm, No you look outstanding and fit, not fat! 😐 “
And then you choose not to take the compliment any further. Let her look whatever she looks, cuz she still would be an IDIOT!
Now I know you are nodding your head in a YES because I know this has happened to you, not one but many times!
But little can be done because the top trend since years has been “taking the compliment and shrugging it off” 😐 😡
🙁 Poor compliments- feeling of being rejected or ignored is so bad! And ignorance is an integral part of the destiny of compliments! 🙁 😛
I just wonder that if she feels the fit of the dress makes her look fat then why did she wear it? Was saying a simple “Thank you” very difficult? Was she trying to strike a conversation or fetch more compliments out of you?
Well she did succeed in fetching more compliments, if you ask me!!
The problem is people want to be told for every little thing that they are awesome. And if they are told this then they want to be reassured about it and are curious to know IN LENGTH that why are they looking good. And honestly, it’s mostly girls who act this way!
And the problem is these people would openly accept the same compliments with huge “I love you’s”, “Aww, thats sweet” and “Thanks a lottt!!!” on FACEBOOK. BUT they would go to any extent to get compliments delivered as comments on Facebook but for compliments on face- they suddenly feel they don’t deserve it, or to be precise they show so!
So next time better give compliments to the little geek girl who looks good on some days, or a guy who is trying hard to improve his short tempered nature- in short- people who really need encouragement in face of appreciation. Because it works better and the little compliments get a home!! 😆
Telling those people that “I would want a simple thank you in return” may work, but I am sure not always ! 😛
And if you are the person who shrugs off the compliments then please – Get a life OR a dress that makes you look good (or fit, for that matter ).
Only if people could understand,the world would be a so much better place to live in.
PS – You can make them understand and contribute your bit to “World becoming a better place to live in”!
Direct them to this post ! 😛
– The Free Spirited Soul